My clients often ask me, How do I get from here to there? What is the actual, moment to moment process of that? How will I know when it’s time to make a change?
Eeeeeexcellent qvestions. I veeel answer them veeeth my own.
So, you know forks in the road? Ever actually enjoyed being in that position? It’s kinda… stressful.
Most people are somewhere in between forks right now, somewhere in between stressed and blissful, somewhere in between scary financial stuff and amazing heaps of riches. I want to talk about this in-between place today, and how to get where you’re headed without waiting to hit a fork in the road.
Say you’re in an ok spot, that could be lots better. Somewhere in between frustrated and hopeful on any given day. You won’t, in a single moment of clarity, rocket out of this situation and leave it behind forever. It will be a gradual process, with bits of movement every day.
How gradual? Up to you. Are you gonna exhaust yourself fighting with the stuff that’s around you, or are you gonna accept the circumstances of this moment, so you can go right to the resourceful place of moving forward?
That’s the work. But we have a hard time remembering that. And I think this is why:
We talk about forks in the road like there’s this moment where the heavens open up, and spotlight two paths from where you stand. You pick one, and that’s that.
2 things happen with this myth:
- people wait for the fork in the road before they make any decisions to move forward. Which means they wait until things get VERY uncomfortable.
- people create forks in the road so that there’s a reason to make change. Which means they make things EXTREMELY uncomfortable.
I think we got this fork-in-the-road bit because people waited to go after what they wanted until it became very dire – until they had to make a choice. It’s either peel potatoes in a dungeon for the rest of your life, or blow the place up with musket balls. You choose! Potatoes, or musket balls. GO!
By contrast, following your heart doesn’t feel very dramatic. Keeping up with what you’ve created in your mind’s eye, and making that happen in the real world, feels… mushy. It’s hard to notice, we don’t do standing ovations for it, and we certainly don’t make movies about it. And sometimes no one knows that big change is afoot except for you. But it’s real, it’s there, you’re doing it.
This is the part you’ll want to hit me for – there’s no ultimate destination, right? You’re not going to reach the new spot and go – there. good job me. time to die.
Nope – you will have already gotten clearer on the next bigger thing, the next phase that you haven’t reached yet – the new horizon..
That’s life, baby. And I don’t like waxing poetic on the journey being the reward and all of that either – I’m a results-oriented animal.
So I think about it in terms of being in the zone instead – when you’re in the zone, you’re feeling good about your contribution, your gifts, your forward movement.
You’re awake in the zone – making little shifts each day, little choices that build on the beauty of your next creation. You don’t wait til you’re at a dead end, forced to choose a fork prong. (Prong, road, whatever. You get it.)
Being in the zone is about quiet, mischievous clarity – I know where I’m headed, and I’m going to have fun with it. Even if no one else gets it yet. Because they will, when I get a little farther along.
You don’t have to shout from the rooftops when you’re in the zone – you can, but you’ve got that magnetic clarity that pulls people to you. So it’s not as hard.
You’re more in control. You’re having fun.
Staying neutral in the (less than desirable) circumstances that might surround you.
If you don’t like where you’re at right now, you’ve gotta remember, this isn’t the ultimate reality you’re stuck with. It’s just what you’ve created, where you are right now.
When your co-workers at the day-job are sniping all around you, or your boss is impressing the importance of a project on you, it’s just where you are, right now. Those noises are the sound of life happening all around you. They are not the entrapment police, coming to lock you up.
When you’re in the zone, that stuff doesn’t bother you nearly as much. You accept it as a temporary circumstance, which will soon be gone as more of your plan is put in place. Oh, and the best part about being in the zone? There’s no potato peeling or musket-balls.
Are you in the zone? If you are, consider this post your standing O. Tell us how you do it.
If you’re not in the zone yet, but you’re ready to be, tell us how you’re gonna do it in the comments.
Good luck with your musket ball demolition being in the zone!
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